Had another Tired and Cranky Day the other day. I’ve talked about my expertise in this area before; being tired and cranky is all I’m good at sometimes. By lunch time when I was willing my son to watch “just a little more television” so I could walk aimlessly around the house failing trying to do something productive, I telephoned my husband rather pathetically.
“When are you coming home? Is it now?”
I knew what the answer would be but I asked anyway.
I continued in a not-quite-whingy-but-rather-desperate voice.
“Son has watched too much TV today and I’m feeling bad about that. I have all this washing but I just can’t seem to do it. And I’m eating all the carbs in the house.”
To my husband’s credit, he quietly said, “It sounds like you need to get out Honey.”
“But where? It’s in the middle of the day and I have to go get the kids from school soon.”
“Just take son down to the local pool and have a swim. It’s all under cover and you’ll both love it.”
It seemed such a radical idea at the time but I thought: why not? So I left the washing pile I wasn’t going to fold anyway and went to the pool.
I spent a blissful 2 hours role playing Octonauts with my son. When we came home, our skin still cool from the pool, we snuggled in bed read books for half an hour before picking up the other children from school.
It turned out to be a rather nice day. I was still tired but it was a more relaxed-tired rather than a stressed-tired and that’s huge for me.
How to Be A Fun (Tired) Mum
1. Don’t put pressure on yourself to do messy activities — or any major activities in fact. When I’m really tired this is usually a disaster.
2. Talk to someone outside of the situation. When I’m really tired and I’m putting one foot in front of the other, that’s all I can really see — my feet! It can help to talk to someone who can give you some helpful ideas on how to get through the particular day.
3. Do something both you and your child/ren enjoy. I knew (well my husband knew) that my son would spend a few hours VERY HAPPILY in water. He would probably enjoy a park too but the last thing I wanted to do in the middle of the day. For it you it might be visiting a close friend, reading books, going for a drive or visiting the shops for a little while.
4. Get out! If being at home is feeling toxic, just get out. Go out for a walk or even just a drive in the car.
I don’t always have these really tired and cranky days but they do come round. And when they do, it’s great to have strategies to get through the day.