I know my image above looks nothing like coins, but I tried. I often use the double-sided-coin analogy to communicate personality traits to my children. I love my children for their uniqueness, and seek to allow them develop into who they are. And so I want them to understand the strengths and weaknesses of their personality and how they can shine. Every personality trait has a positive side (heads) and a negative side (tails).
For example, if you are an organised genius (great quality, ie. heads), you may also be a bit of a control freak (not so great quality, ie. tails). Or, if you are laid-back, easy-going person (great quality) you may be disorganised and messy (not so great quality). Personally, I’m passionate and driven (great quality) but this means I can also be forgetful of what’s going on around me, or thoughtless as my Mum used to say (not so great quality).
I was raised in this manner; that is, I was forced to acknowledge my faults along with celebrating my assets. In this process there was no attack to my person in any way; I always felt loved and incredibly special. It’s a beautiful thing when someone sees all the good in you and knows all the bad, and loves you regardless.
My children are incredibly special — amazing — and I love them for who they are and all the positive I can see in them. It makes me cry to think of it! I seek to help my children discover the strengths in their personality, and also the down side, so they can strive for balance.