I’ve collected a lot of mish-mash of items over the years: new things; hand-me-downs; old things. My house doesn’t look anything like a magazine. I don’t mind. Mostly. However, sometimes, just sometimes, a seed of discontent grows inside me.
Discontentment is an interesting thing, and I’ve learned to take a moment to analyse it before it grows. Sometimes, all I need to do in this situation is give myself a pep talk and set my expectations straight. Get over it. However, sometimes the unrest growing stems from legitimate reasons; sometimes from real needs and sometimes because of the way I’m made up.
I’m not a materialist person, never have been. But I love beauty. Truly beautiful things: colour, light, shadows, nature, interacting lines, simple good-good design…things that add value to life. I know myself and how I interact with the world around me. I know that colours, sound, light, nature: it all impacts on me greatly. It’s part of who I am.
I’ve lived in many places, and some suited me better than others. There’s no point waiting for a perfect situation to come upon me. No. Neither have I found it helpful to continually squash myself — my God-given beauty — under the banner of should-be-gratefullness. Should be. Should be. Should be. It’s about seeking to balance reality with expectation; it’s about acceptance while still investing in things that help me shine; it’s about being an overcomer.
So I see value in acknowledging how I feel (without wallowing and becoming a serial whinged). When I recognise a seed of discontentment growing inside me about my situation, I go through a process.
Look at what do I have
Observe inspiration as I live life
Make the best of it. Create something!
Be grateful and enjoy
Using my bedroom as an example. I see my bedroom as a refuge. Sometimes I sneak in there of an afternoon and curl up on the bed, looking for a few moments of quiet. Even just 1 minute.
Reality: the colour theme of the bedroom is not my favourite. And when you add the 13 year old bed frame, a coverlet found on a clearance sale a few years ago and an antique commode chair from my grandparents, well, it’s a bit of a mess.
Then, I took a moment and looked at my bedroom objectively. I saw the colours brown, maroon, yellow and blue.
Then, I flicked through photographs of special places I’ve visited, and I found one of Spring Bluff Station near Toowoomba, which is one of my favourite places. It reminded me of the colours in the bedroom. All the room needed was just one more colour to tie it together. Green. Dark green. And so I got dark green sheets that reminded me of gum trees.
… the inspiration
Warm and Earthy
I love it! It’s warm and earthy. I now walk into my bedroom and I think of a burnt red cabin surrounded by gum tree woods, with a blue sky backdrop and the sun shinning all around.
…can you see it, as I see it?
…tinted coffee jar I featured also in this post
…see that teddy bear? Had it since I was 3, when I had a hernia operation. My favourite toy.
I sometimes leave out the ECCO shoes I wore on the World’s Longest Catwalk because they go with the bedroom. Nothing wrong with using shoes as decoration when they are not on your feet!
I make a point of enjoying the room now — it’s not only a refuge, it makes me happy. Joyful!
Discontentment isn’t helpful or good. When it happens I either throw a tonne of gratefulness at it or use it as a catalyst to overcome by creating and relishing in beauty…even if it’s only beauty I can see. Because if I can see it, then others will feel it. Give.
Bec @ The PlumbetteAugust 9, 2014 at 4:14 pm
This post couldn’t have been timed better with how I’ve been feeling this week. I’ve been sitting in our lounge Breastfeeding Phoebe and felt discontented with our decor which we have had since we got married as most of it came back with us on a mission trip to Africa. I’m thinking to get over the discontent is to change our cushion covers. With all that is going on in the world. It’s a nice first world problem to have. We truly are blessed aren’t we? X
Kelly Be A Fun MumAugust 10, 2014 at 12:47 pm
Yes! Exactly! We are so fortunate! It’s always good to put things into perspective like that.
And yet, we feel what we feel (whether we want to or not; I say that to my kids too). Feeling something is not the problem, it’s what we do with that feeling, hey.
Cushion covers are a GREAT idea! Would love to see a pic when you’re done if you want to share (tag me on insta) xx
ChelseaAugust 10, 2014 at 12:53 pm
Love this post, Kelly. I’ve been going through our house and giving a lot away… in the search to find more contentment in less stuff. Truly we don’t need so much of what we have, and just having “so much stuff” adds clutter to my mind and life. It’s allowed the house to have a lot more space… and just moving things around a bit to suit our current life (not what it was 2 years ago when we moved in) has felt great. I also replaced one piece of furniture in our lounge with a white peace to brighten up the room, and it’s made a big change to the brightness of the room. Thanks for sharing your tips, will have to think about colour schemes a bit too. xx
Kelly Be A Fun MumAugust 11, 2014 at 9:46 am
Oh, I agree Chelsea! Having moved a lot, having less stuff is a key for less stress! White is always a winner. I’ve just done the same in our living area (white entertaining unit).