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Parenting can sometimes become a blur of driving to footy practice, helping out with homework, packing school lunches and riding the merry-go-round of kids’ birthday parties. In our family, we try to always eat dinner together, but even this can be a hectic time, with our kids all talking at once, each telling competing stories from their day. Finding quality time to share with your children, especially one-on-one time, is not easy.

Research has found that we’re spending more time now with our children than our parents did, however, the quality of that time is sometimes questionable. If we’re reading a book to our child, but texting at the same time, or taking a walk to the park with them while talking to a work colleague on the phone, the value of the time can be lost.

Yet many parenting experts state that loving and attentive parenting can boost your child’s self-esteem and general well-being, lower their risk of depression and can help teenagers to stay out of trouble. As a mum, I try to find small moments in the day when I can intentionally connect with my kids – whether it be feeding the guinea pigs with my daughter (and chatting in the garden afterwards), or inviting one of the kids to join me in walking the dog.

But it’s not just mums that children need to spend uninterrupted time with. Fathers are a vital role model in their kids’ lives.

Darren and Melissa Lewis - Fathering Adventures

Darren Lewis, a family counsellor and the founder of Fathering Adventures, is passionate about connecting fathers with their children, after seeing the effects of dysfunctional father-child relationships in his counselling experiences.

“A lot of the problems I saw in those that I counselled stemmed back to unresolved issues caused by an inadequate relationship with their father,” Darren said. “When these issues from their past were resolved, their relationships and families benefited.”

Armed with this knowledge, Darren set out on a quest to provide experiences for fathers and their children, to ensure that fathers no longer unknowingly wounded their children. This came in the form of adventure-based camps for dads and daughters, or dads and sons, which led to Darren being awarded Queensland Father of the Year in 2011.

Darren practises what he preaches, regularly spending one-on-one time with his four sons, as well as encouraging other fathers to invest time in their children.

“Your kids know that your calendar is jam-packed, and they also know how you choose to spend your free time,” Darren said. “If you carve out regular time with them—just the two of you—that makes a big statement, and tells them that they are a priority to you.”

Fathering Adventures - Queensland

Fathering Adventures - Queensland camp for father and daughters / father and son

When our daughter was 11, I was pleased when my husband suggested that he take her along to a Fathering Adventure camp in South East Queensland. Together they set off, not knowing what to expect, but hoping to enjoy a weekend away, free from distractions, and without younger siblings tagging along.

They both came home full of stories of how they tackled the high ropes course together, laughing at in-jokes from camp, and both agreeing that “they should do this more often”.

As part of the camp, Darren tells the fathers to ask their children what they could be doing better as a dad. Interestingly, our daughter said that she would love her dad to spend more time with her, and he pledged to find a way to do that.

Darren also emphasises that any father or significant male in a child’s life is welcome to attend. There are camps for girls aged between seven and 13, and for boys of the same age. For children aged 13 years and older, Darren runs camps that intentionally prepare teenagers for adulthood.

“Our children need their parents’ presence, involvement, engagement and attention at absolutely every stage of their development,” Darren said. “However, the most urgent time for both parents to richly invest into the lives of their children is in their early and mid-teens.”

Our daughter is now almost a teenager, and we’re marvelling at how quickly she’s growing into a young lady. It also makes us realise how little time we have to honour the pledge of finding more father-daughter time. It must be time to book them both in for another Fathering Adventure camp…

Fathering Adventures - Queensland camp for father and daughters / father and son

Fathering Adventures camps are held regularly at a number of locations around Australia, including, North Queensland, South East Queensland, Victoria and New South Wales. To find out more, or to book your place on an upcoming camp, visit the Fathering Adventures website: https://fatheringadventures.com.au.

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